Showing posts with label London. Show all posts
Showing posts with label London. Show all posts

What a perfect time to reinstate a blog with the absurdity of the new Porn laws in the UK

It's probably going to be a good idea to familiarise yourself with the ins and outs of this bullshit, because this will have an affect on the BDSM and Fetish scene, let alone the average Joe just wanting to watch porn

http://www.vice.com/en_uk/read/non-conventional-sex-the-government-wants-to-block-perfectly-legal-porn-digital-economy-bill

How being a Dominant has helped me in my vanilla life.

I read a recent blog post on Fetlife earlier, and it's made me think about what kink has done for me.

The writer points out that it isn't always easy being a dominant and we don't always want to be the one in charge, however, it has made me think about how different I am now to before.

I feel, in the three years since I've joined Fetlife, I've made leaps and bounds in my mental health and my happiness. I no longer have the relationship with my wife that literally clouded my whole entire consciousness to the point that I couldn't be happy for any extended period of time. I no longer live in what was a toxic environment where I was exposed to the constant stream of bad news and drama that plagued me and those who lived there.

One of the added bonuses from the growth of the last few years is not only leaving my wife and my mind being clearer, I also feel that being listened to and not constantly having the piss taken out of me (by the friends I've made on the Metal and Alternative scene, not so much at home ha), I have been able to assert myself more and actually feel like I'm being listened to and not always being put down but those who are whittier and have more assertive than me.

I believe I have stuck up for myself more, tried to engage instead of sitting back and just listening. I've never been one who enjoyed sitting in a group of people and just debating about the more important of subjects because those with bigger personalities, funnier and sometimes, just louder voices, will always be heard over someone like me, but thankfully, with the vast majority of the people around me now, that doesn't seem to be much of a problem, thankfully.

Maybe it's partly that the kink people respect me more (I am still wondering why haha) and they value what I have to say, or I am able to put myself better to the kinky people than those who are not part of those circles? Who knows.

Anyways, just some thoughts I thought I would put down.

The World Today...

This has been brewing in me for days, so unfortunately, here it comes.
I've stopped and restarted this post so many times because nothing sounds right. nothing can convey the utter disgust, pain and absolute anguish at the lack of empathy for fellow humans. From the absolute straight-washing of journos on ‪Sky News‬, to the attempt of media outlets trying to push yet another ‪Islamophobia‬ angle, to the judge who let a fucking rapist off with six months, he'll get out in three, if he's "good".

First off, Anyone who still backs the owning of guns in America, sorry but you are an idiot. You have had over 372 massacres, killing over 475 plus and wounding 1870 in the year 2015 because of guns. in total, As of December 23, a total of 12,942 people had been killed in the United States in 2015 in a gun homicide, unintentional shooting, or murder/suicide.You know the last time anything like this happened in England and Australia, NOT LONG BEFORE THEY WERE FUCKING BANNED! 1996 in ‪‎Dunblane‬ in Scotland and 1996 in ‪Port Arthur‬ in Australia and both banned guns by 1997. You say an amendment can't be changed, yeah well, there was an amendment that allowed rich white guys to own black slaves, REMEMBER HOW THAT ONE WORKED OUT?!?! Your politicians are absolutely corrupt and in the pockets of corporations, we are not much better but at least we don't have fucking lone terrorists running round shooting up schools, colleges and fucking night clubs. To anyone who has felt lost, whether they live an alternative lifestyle, they are Gay, Bi, into the fetish scene or whatever constitutes not being "normal", most will never understand the feeling of going to somewhere where you are "allowed" to be yourself and now, because of one piece of pond scum, the whole community, town, state and country are gonna be second guessing if it's fucking safe to be who they are. They have been fucking robbed of their freedom, let's not fuck about here, they have been robbed and those who still back the absolute joke called the US guns laws are to blame. I actually don't give a shit who I offend with this because there is no reasoning that FIFTY people lost their lives and countless more have been affected because you idiots can't get your shit together and save your families, your friends, your loved ones and your fellow human beings. A vote against gun reform is against your fellow humans, PERIOD! End of discussion.

If anyone wants to say that owning a gun will save them from terrorists, present them with this little statistic. From 2005-2015, 71 Americans were killed in terrorist attacks on U,S, soil, 301,797 were killed by gun violence during the same period. Wanna debate what is more of a threat to the American people? Terrorists, or your own fellow Americans?

The straight / white washing in the media. Yet again, if you aren't white and male, you pretty much can go fucking hang for all the British and American media care. The absolutely abhorrent attempt at journalism by the clearly guided and tactfully worded bastards at Sky News trying to unsuccessfully skirt around the fact this was a HATE CRIME against the LGBT community in Orlando.
Moving on to the ‪Rapist Brock Turner‬. Again, let's not dress this up, if you are a rich white guy, you'll get off almost, if not actually scot free. The lack of empathy for the victim when all you get to hear about is how "awful" it is for "20 minutes of action". That's 20 minutes of action that has impacted another human being and will haunt her for a very long time, if not fucking forever you slimey, disgusting, reptilian bastard! I am trying very hard not to wish bad things on people as I actually don't wish pain and anguish on anyone, but sometimes, you just wish someone would experience the pain they've caused others because right not one member of that family has anyone but their precious little swimmer in mind. If this were my child, good god damn would they be made to understand what they have done. I understand supporting your family, but seriously, at the cost of another? I don't think so. I watched a video of a mother shaving her daughters head when she was given the news her child was bullying a cancer victim. Not that I agree with videoing the head shaving was the answer, but it definitely illustrates the point that she had gone too far and someone was gonna hold her accountable for her actions.

The lack of empathy has brought all these cases and many many more under the same banner that no one cares enough. The rapes and oppression women face anywhere in the world still, not just developing countries, very much still in the first world too, to the un-covered atrocities in Africa and Asia and so many more. We need to be looking out for each other and not just turning a blind eye and saying "Not my problem", I'm sorry mate, if you share a town, city, country, continent or planet with another who is suffering, it should be your duty to be that person who cares. You can't fight every battle, but actually standing up for at least one would fucking help.

Until we can literally stand as one, we will always fall divided. Stop giving a shit about someones, race, sexuality, religion or lifestyle and start helping those in need.

Be nice

This month or so I have definitely been coming down from a pretty decent rise in positivity and it's not been utterly awful and I've definitely had some memories that I'll treasure but the last few weeks have been harder than I would have liked them to be.

As positive as getting a job is and all the great feedback I'm getting from being there, there has been a few days where I was finding it hard to keep myself from crying at my desk while attempting to work...

But yesterday, after a Thursday that nothing especially bad went wrong but it was a "everything went wrong" kinda day, I went out with two friends for food and some shopping and it turned out to be the day I need more than anything else. I laughed harder than I have in months, to the point of almost crying because it hurt so much while in front of the poor girl at the till of UniQlo in Oxford Street.

What I'm trying to say is that connecting with people is all we really have in this world, so why not try and put a smile on someones face?

I've definitely been a negative person for a lot of my life, mostly without realising it and yes, I'll prob have my moments here and there but with all the negativity, malice and hatred in the world, why would you really want to add to that? Wouldn't the world be a nicer place to be in if we all opened a door for someone else once in a while and the other person made eye contact and smiled? Little acts of kindness like this, or making a friend smile or gut laugh because you are acting like a fool for their own and your enjoyment would help bring in some well needed love into the world.

Be nice to those around you, because we are all fighting battles and you never know when that one act of kindness will be the one thing from stopping doing something that would turn their world from being a shower of hell to a small ray of sunshine.
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